Working with Me
You've already tried to feel better.
You've done the work. And still, the same patterns return.
You've thought about things differently. You've worked on your reactions. You may have even done everything you were "supposed" to do in therapy before. And still, something doesn't quite shift.
Maybe it looks like:
Small shifts flip people from ally to enemy — and you can't slow it down
Perfectionism that never quiets the critical voice inside
Wanting connection, but staying on the sidelines out of fear
Self-critical cycles that pull you back toward depression
You know what isn’t working, but nothing seems to stick.
These patterns were learned early.
Often in relationships that deeply mattered. The patterns you learned made sense once — they helped you adapt, stay connected, or get through something hard. But they don't work the same way now, and untangling them isn't as simple as trying harder.
Together, we slow down and look closely — where these patterns came from, why they've stuck, and how to build real choice instead of automatic reaction.
Authentic. Active. Relational.
My style, in three words.
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Authentic
Transparent, direct, and human - I tell you what I'm thinking and why.
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Active
I ask questions, offer homework, and push towards change. No passive listening here.
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Relational
I use our relationship itself as part of your healing, not just a backdrop to it.
Over time, something begins to shift.
You start to recognize patterns in the moment. Your reactions feel less automatic — you have more choice in how you respond, to yourself and to others. And you begin to understand yourself in a way that feels clearer, deeper, and more compassionate.
I believe in this work because I've seen it change lives — including my own. Early relationships shape how we see ourselves, and often hold the key to what's keeping us stuck. My role is active and collaborative: I notice patterns, ask questions, and help you turn insight into real, lasting choice.
Why I Do This Work
THERAPY MOTTOS
What guides me in the room
“I don't ask my patients to go to places in themselves that I am unwilling to go."
I hold myself to the same growth I ask of you.
“Therapy is a recognition of our humanity and the realities of the human condition."
Life is messy and sometimes painful. The goal is integration, not perfection.
“The human will to survive and be resilient is more powerful than any psychological intervention."
We are defined not by what has happened to us, but by how we choose to respond.
This isn’t just about reducing symptoms.
It’s about building a life that feels meaningful and truly your own.